How To Overcome A Difficult (Crisis) Situation In Life ?

There is a common saying “Life is not a bed of roses”. In the journey of life, we often face situations where we feel totally shattered with no visible ray of hope that situation would improve or change. Many times under such situations we feel so depressed and lonely that life looks worthless to us. Our mind is full of negative thoughts and emotions and we start sinking under such circumstances. But the undeniable fact is that life never stops, situations may be stagnant for sometime but they are bound to undergo change. This is the basic rule of life.

Perception Matters: In most of the situations we encounter in life, the way we look at things matter a lot. Where as we may be looking only at the Dark Side of the coin, there may also be a brighter side which is often ignored due to our shortsighted or restricted approach. There are times when a negative event actually becomes the originating point for a positive change. This is where the perception comes into play. While a third person may clearly visualize or perceive certain opportunity obtained by an individual due to any incident in life, the said individual looks totally blindfolded and ignorant of this opportunity as he has put all his focus on the darker side of the incident. If one gives a little Insight into what happened, why it happened and where we can move further in the given situation, he may be able to decipher certain hidden opportunities and if he channelizes his energies towards it, he may end up in a much better and comfortable situation.

The Comfort Zone: People have the tendency to remain inside a ‘comfort zone’ which they have created for themselves in due course of life. Of course one must have worked hard to achieve certain things in order to create the so-called comfort zone. But at the same time he must understand that in order to expand his capabilities and get hold of bigger achievements in life, he requires to come out of his comfort zone. In fact he has to sacrifice the comforts enjoyed by him in the particular comfort zone in which he is residing and must be ready to land himself in a certain discomfort zone to make way or to design a better, bigger comfort zone for himself. This is a never ending process of life and it always gives us the impetus to move forward in order to achieve higher, to feel better and to feel more comfortable. If we do not move out of our comfort zone then, we have no moral right to aspire for better and bigger things or to compare our situation with more successful people than us. In such a case, we should forgo the idea to enhance our existing capabilities or to achieve higher echelons of life.

Find The Way Ahead: Whenever you will land up in an adverse situation, rather than cursing your destiny and people due to whom you feel you have fallen in this situation, you should be patient, not lose control and think of the different paths which are lying in front of you and try to find where each such path will lead us. If you do that, you will be able to analyze and decide upon which path is the best for you. Subsequent to this, you can proceed on the chosen path without any fear or inhibition. To analyze this, one may take assistance of his family, friends, elders and people who have encountered such a situation in life or have the experience is interpreting the situation for you and guiding you to find the right path. In any case, when you decide to choose a particular path, be in full control, take ownership and move forward with confidence. There should not be any looking back thereafter and yes, never blame others of misguiding you. Success or failure does not depend only on the chosen path but also on the approach  and attitude of a particular individual moving on that path.

Be Bold And Face The Situation: When we encounter troubled times and feel of getting stuck up, we should face the situation rather than complaining and running away from it. There is a common saying that “When the situation gets tough, the tough gets going”.

Every difficult situation in life comes to train us so that we may become more rugged, much better and mightier to face and handle the challenges of life. Have you ever come across a kid who has never fallen on the ground before learning to walk or even run? Obviously not! So it's not proper to expect only easy situations in-store for us in life. If we are not served with tough tasks, we will never become tough enough to face unexpected situations in life. So take every crisis situation as an opportunity to enhance yourself, to better yourself, to learn lessons and to solve the complexities of life and making life convenient for yourself.

The Goodness Of Life: Life is never unfair with anyone. We get what we deserve, we reap what we sow. If we are lavishly spending our income without having a thought of saving for future, how can we expect that our coffers will not become empty one day. In such a case, we require to continuously take efforts to enhance our income through more hard work to compensate for what we are spending. If we don't give due regard to the sentiments and feelings of others, how can we expect that we will be treated by them in a different way. Of course despite of this, surprisingly, many people treat us with kindness and generosity even if we have been unfair to them. So, the basic rule is to be good to others and goodness will return to you from nature. If you help others in need you will get help when you are in difficult times although the helping hands may not be the same whom you have helped in past. But help will reach you in anyway.

Take Things As They Come: There are times when despite of all the rigorous efforts we put in, we do not get expected results. But there are also situations when we get quick and favourable results despite of our slack approach. Do we ever blame our destiny when we get something for which we haven't work hard. Obviously not! It goes without saying that the Supreme Power plays his role to the best. Because of our limited vision, many times we cannot look at the other side of the coin. If we have faith in ourselves and we are putting our best efforts, then sooner or later, results are bound to come. However the results may not always be in the form in which we have visualized it. But in due course of time we understand that whatever we have achieved with our efforts was the best for us and not what we did not achieve. So have faith in the power of nature, it balances it all. It has the data of everyone and it plans and executes accordingly. What may be a loss for one person may be a gain for someone else. When we win, we never complain then why to complain when we lose. So what should we do? The best thing is to move ahead. Give another try! If we succeed next time we should be happy, if we don't, try again. Or else look for other possible options if it is pretty clear that nature is not supporting us. This means what we are trying to achieve may not be suitable for us and we are being directed towards something else, some other path which will lead to a situation where will feel much more happy and content.

Feel The Hidden Power In Yourself: Human beings are the toughest creature god has created. They can survive in any situation with anyone. They have the capability to achieve what seems impossible. So in any situation, just have the faith in yourself and be confident that you are capable of handling it. Just think, if someone else can tackle it, why can't you? There is no situation in life which can’t be handled. It's just a matter of taking effort and becoming familiar with the situation. You even have the power to mold the situation as per your suitability and requirement. What you call a complex situation, it becomes simpler once you have handled it or overcome it. With every new challenge in life, you are adding stuff to your persona and are ready face many other diverse and complex situations of life. You become more powerful with each such experience. Every ordinary day to day challenge in life is turning you into an extraordinary human being. 

Written by- Sameer

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